Bad example

Yesterday my son due to small thing, yelled to the father and talk impolite .... father tried to ask him to behalf well and do not talk like that and said will punish him if he continue like that..this make the situation even worst.. My son is the type of , if you try hard to him.. he will even more hard ... I tried to ask the father dont get angry, let him cool down first... father insisted is the 'right time' to educate him ... well.. son yelled even hard and said something that 'knock' my head ... "I very 'fan' now,very 'fan' of you ... papa and keQin, etc' As the sentense sounds 'familiar' to me... i felt upset... the 'words' came from my mouth.. and from the father as well... i yelled to them when i felt so frustrated with them.... fighting, noisy , etc ...

I asked the 'father' just leave him alone... i will talk to him once i done my cooking..(i was half-way preparing lunch)..

During the bath time.... i had a good talk with him.. i asked him gently 'Just now i heard you said you are very 'fan'... where you learn this word from? You 'acting' like me or your father?"

Suddenly, he looked at me with cheeky face.. smile a bit and said 'You, mama... i 'act' like you' ... I am glad that he telling me the true.. I continuously said 'Well... you all sometimes act too naughty and I cannot control myself to said this out, but promise me, dont yelled again like that and yelling this words out...And I promise you, i will not say so. If I accidentally forgot... you remind me and tell me that we had promised each other, okay??"

he said 'Mm... i wanted to say again, but i wont yell... i said very very soft and low low sounds like 'mmm... I ~~~~ fan' and he just laugh with this new idea of talking like tweety bird sounds ... phew~~ my son...

Mind our own language especially in front of the kids.

平衡点

近来生活很忙碌, 搞得我脾气很暴燥...

孩子的哭闹声...哇!!

要张罗一家大小的饮食起居 ..

还要打理文件...

还有一串串的 follow-up ...

我快要崩溃了...

我非常须要找寻我生活上的平衡点 .... ><

Think Positive

Just before i come to Australia, i had tuned my mindset as try to think positive for all the stuffs around. As i believe the power of words.. after i touched down here... kind of pressures of all kind of thing to settle within the deadline.. negative thinking arises ... loneliness, unhappiness... all follow closely that made my mood getting even worst.

This morning while i put on uniform for Hao... i was chatting with him, suddenly like a 'blink' in my mind.. i told him ...u need to talk about all positive stuff, as our words very powerful... when you said bad thing, it really 'come', so we need to talk all the positive stuff... as good will follow us as well.....suddenly i like awake... yeah... where am i heading these few weeks?? why I become mentally so weak? Just becoz of my own mindset.... phew~~ settling down definitely needs times..... and I need patient and more positive thoughts on top of EVERYTHING that will only keep me moving forward!!!

Mom... you got more friends now...

I was telling Hao that... 'Hao, you got so many friends now.. even more than mom... i so pity, i got so little friend here only... i only knew Adam's mom... Clayton's mom and dad... Chelsea's mom.. '... he said 'ya... i got so much now, more than you...'

Last sunday evening, we went to our nearby park ... i chat with a lady... with her 2 grandchildren.. She is from china... helping the dotta to take care the kids while both the dotta and son in law working...They moved from Spore ... been here for 1-2 yrs... Very lovely friendly lady....

Yesterday morning ... i was chatting with an old Ang Mo lady ...Pam and her hubby, Barry.. playing with their grandkids in the park... Same as us, they just move here for 2 mths +.. She told me the kids from 'farm' area.. so they are noisy.... haha.. all the kids are 'noisy' when they at playground.. no mattter where they from.....

on our way back by paddle... Hao in front and i am back following.... he said 'Mom...... you got more friends now.... '... this boy really put my words in his little mind....yes.. hopefully i will know more friends from now onwards...quite miss my days in KL with my friends...colleagues.... so lonely over here ** sob sob........

Mum... i felt like going back KL....

I had a chat with my son, Hao ... while both of his sis had asleep ... i started with "Do you miss KL? or yr frens in KL?"

he like 'emm... i felt like going back KL"...

I asked 'Is it becoz u miss yr frens there? or ah ma?"

he said 'nope.... you guess'..... he started to use his finger to count ...

i said 'mm... Henry? ' he like 'mm.. nope'...

then i try my 2nd attempt... 'Lo Mai Kai??" he said 'yes... 1, then?" put his thumb up... for the 1st item i guessed corrrectly... then i said 'mm.. apung that i bought for you from Pasar Malam...?" .. he like 'correct... what's next?" 1 more finger up.... "Ha Peng?" "Roti Canai", "Bak Chang", "Chic Rice"... YES YES YES!!! his eyes blinking.... more and more fingers up....phew~~ this boy... missing all the food from KL.... just like the mum.......^_^

looks like i need to start 'picking' up those skills to learn how to make all those food....

"Why No English"??

It's 2 mths + we been here.... initial stage we had been running up and down to do all kind of stuffs.. then we slow down our steps to take a breath... now we continue for the remaining issues...

Yesterday we went to city to bring my mom for the health assessment - chest xray, which is one of the procedure to follow in order to extent her visa stay for another 3 mths ... took number, wait for the queue, got it...paid and complete everything then wait for the queue for x-ray...

The radiographer is a 'ang mo' lady... she is very friendly, i accompany my mom to go in... i translated to my mom on what to do... she is very friendly... she do thing very gentle ... then done... There is another chinese young man colleague with her... after mymom turn, i guessed she wanted to take a break for lunch, etc. She informed the chinese guy that he is taking over the job ... i was waiting my mom there near the dressing room, so i can hear clearly on what they said... xray area is at the same area...

The next is a indian girl, done... then a chinese girl done, he did very fast.. then a chinese man, about 50 i guess... he cant speak english... normally the radiographer will ask 1 questions, 'Your birthday?" The man didnt answer, the young man repeated again "Your birthday?" ... silent again... The young man is not patient and said 'Ai...... your birthday?"..... after a while, i guess the chinese man said 'no english' (means he dunno english)... i heard the young chinese radiographer talked very loud , as i can hear cleary 'WHY NO ENGLISH???" ..... then he started to talk a bit impolite .... " if i say 1, do a deep breath in and hold, like this ' he do the deep breath veryloudly... and so on... said loud 'do you get it? do you understand me? ah??" ...

I actually felt very upset on hearing all these.... i felt shame on the young chinese radiographer... First, he is not professional enough to carry out his job... Then i felt he bit of 'look down' the chinese man... Actually there are a lot of chinese whom 'look down' on those chinese that cannot speak a proper english, and they forgot they are chinese... if you are chinese and you cannot speak your own mother tongue, i think he more shameful (I dont mean to all ABC , jsut for those got this kind of attitude problem) ... This young man, he can either speak politely in english if people dunno english .. but not in a impolite tune... really felt upset on this...

phew~~ time to stop as tons of household stuffs waiting for me... a bit late today :p