3x before and after....

3x before and after... what is this all about... 3x is my age... haha. as usual, age is the secret of a woman... :p

before 3x.. when come to eating, is to fullfill my eyes and brain. as looking for a nice presentable food and also thinking to eat all kind of food..... w/o asking my body like it or not...

but now... start thinking what should i 'feed' my body to let it more healthy and what is my body required actually... emphasize on quality and not quantity anymore...

fren, we had burden our body too much, is time to take a good care of it... dont start too late ya....!

生活框框

每一 天,

一觉醒来....

满脑子想的都是一系列今天要的事情..

忙....

忙....

忙.....

.... 忙.....

放工了....

一个 人 驾着车...

天又黑了...

身体累 了....

想想回家了...

又是一系列等待着我的...

想想几时我才能跳出这框框呢.....

感觉電池好象要用完了.....

房子 - 家和房子...

~~我的家庭真可爱... 美丽~~

曾听一个老人家说..

很不舍得离开房子,住了几十年...

当时听在我耳里, 心想: 没什麼啊..房子而已嘛...

我房子,住了五-六年....

我三个孩子, 在这成长...

这房子, 有很多回忆 ...

每一盏 灯,

每一样摆设,

都是我和我丈夫精心挑选的...

家和房子有太多连续了.....

现在,我真的体会到所谓的 "不舍得" ...

strawberry generation??

疑受情困面子书留“安息”　学院生烧炭自杀

http://www.kwongwah.com.my/news/2010/08/23/145.html

read a new that really shocked me.. 19 yrs old college boy... suicide becoz of that.. wondering nowadays the youngsters ... is it cannot take pressures or how their mind is thinking on 'Life'... there is a chinese term called 'strawberry group', which describe the youngster that not able to handle pressures ... wondering what is the root caused for this?

Too protective from parent? I means what the big deal if broke off with g/b fren?? There are a lot of valuable 'items' out there.... why their 'thinking' so narrow or to be said immature or selfish? Me a bit angry when look at this kind of news... as they never concerns of their closest family members, esp parent.

You know what... i keep thinking the root caused and wanna make sure it will not happen to my kids, how to educate them so that they will have more positive thinking, how to handle problem, a right mindset and know how to appreciate ... ...is really not an easy job .... sign........

Star Fish Boy

Nowadays, I am very busy during weekend, as i had 1 infant, 2 kids now....

My routine job scope:

Morning : bath 3 of them... their bfast

Noon : prepare lunch for every one and feeding......

Night : bath, prepare dinner and feed them.....

Basically, I dont have much time esp play with my son... My son is a super active boy, he just want to play... or disturb the sis ... make her shout loud or cried loud... or find something 'Not toys' to play with...

Last week, when i out from my kitchen, i see him in a special custom made suit.... not sure want to faint or want to laugh..... here my Star Fish boy...

p/s: fyi... is a mattress cover... he took out the mattress ( 2 pcs inside) and wear on the mattress cover and become ....... STAR FISH!

My kids...

This is the 1st time that the bro treated the sis so good... ya.. feeding the sis dinner.... not sure what happen to him ..hahhaa... as most of the time, he will make the sis shout, cry ....

haha.. but only for few mouths... he said 'my hand tire liao, qin .. u eat yourself lar....'

i said 'now you know .... everyday want me to feed you'..

after that, Qin keep saying 'i wan ko ko to feed me..'... Ko ko ran far far away and shouted 'NOPE'...

hahha... snap down this and show them in the future....

Enjoy vs kids

Recently had came across this on my mind... Most of the time, i will think like 'after my kids grow up, i can go enjoy the thing i like... for ie...shopping, dancing..etc'. I think most of the mommies out there had the same thoughts like mine...

You know, to go out with infants or toddlers.. you need to prepare a lot of stuff.. pack a big bag, filled with pampers, milk powder, bottle, waters, cloth, handkerchief etc... make sure your 'monitoring system' is strong and full with 'energy' to keep an eye on them.. esp in public area.. come back with stuff to wash, settle them (bath and change cloth) ... then only you got time to settle yourself... sounds tiring rite??

Thus, we use to say 'NOPE' whenever want to go out with kids...when thought of all the hassle and mess...

So we missed the time for friend gatherings... fashion trends.. window shopping funs.. and our kids missed these all as well... worth it?? From the other point of view.. you still taking care of your kids.. just location wise is different. We as a parent still perform the same tasks and we did enjoy at the same times as well...

Sometimes i still prefer to bring them out and 'handle' the mess/hassle for the whole process ... even is tire... but i thought this is so called "LIFE" :)

教育孩子

a bit too lengthly... but worth to read..

I copy from my friend's blog... as I would like to share with my friends as well..

在教育孩子的问题上，美国父母有很多值得中国父母学习的地方

儿子去美国留学，毕业后定居美国。还给我找了个洋媳妇苏珊。 如今，小孙子托比已经3岁了。今年夏天，儿子为我申请 了探亲签证。在美国待了三个月，洋媳妇苏珊教育孩子的方法， 令我这个中国婆婆大开眼界。

不吃饭就饿着

每天早上，托比醒来后，苏珊把早餐往餐桌上一放，就自顾 自 地忙去了。托比会自己爬上凳子，喝牛奶，吃面包片。吃饱 后，他回自己的房间，在衣柜里找衣服、鞋子，再自己穿上。 毕竟托比只有3岁，还搞不清楚子的正反面，分不清鞋子 的左右脚。有一次托比又把裤子穿反了，我赶紧上前想帮他 换，却被苏珊制止了。她说，如果他觉得不舒服，会自己脱 下来，重新穿好；如果他没觉得有什么不舒服，那就随他的 便。那一整天，托比反穿着裤子跑来跑去，苏姗像没看见一样。

又一次，托比出去和邻居家的小朋友玩，没多大会就气喘吁 吁 地跑回家，对苏珊说：“妈妈，露西说我的裤子穿反了，真 的吗？”露西是邻居家的小姑娘，今年5岁。苏姗笑着说： “是的，你要不要换回来？”托比点点头，自己脱下裤子， 仔细看了看，重新穿上了。从那以后，托比再也没穿反过裤子。

我不禁想起，我的外孙女五六岁时不会用筷子，上小学时不 会 系鞋带。如今在上寄宿制初中的她，每个周末都要带回家一大堆 脏衣服呢。

一天中午，托比闹情绪，不肯吃饭。苏珊说了他几句，愤怒 地 小托比一把将盘子推到了地上，盘子里的食物洒了一地。苏 姗看着托比，认真地说：“看来你确实不想吃饭！记住，从 现在到明天早上，你什么都不能吃。”托比点点头，坚定地 回答：“Yes!”我在心里暗笑，这母子俩，还都挺倔！

下午，苏珊和我商量，晚上由我做中国菜。我心领神会，托 比 告别爱吃中国菜，一定是苏珊觉得托比中午没好好吃饭，想让他 晚上多吃点儿。

那天晚上我施展厨艺，做了托比最爱吃的糖醋里脊、油闷大 虾， 还用意大利面做了中国式的凉面。托比最喜欢吃那种凉面，小小 的人可以吃满满一大盘。

开始吃晚饭了，托比欢天喜地地爬上凳子。苏珊却走过来， 拿 走了他的盘子和刀叉，说：“我们已经约好了，今天你不能 吃饭，你自己也答应了的。”托比看着面容严肃的妈妈，“哇” 地一声在哭起来，边哭边说：“妈妈，我饿，我要吃饭。”“不 行，说过的话要算数。”苏珊毫不心软。

我心疼了，想替托比求情，说点好话，却见儿子对我使眼色 。 想起我刚到美国时，儿子就跟我说，在美国，父母教育孩子 时，别人千万不要插手，即使是长辈也不例外。无奈，我只好保 持沉默。

那顿饭，从始至终，可怜的小托比一直坐在玩具车里，眼巴 巴 地看着我们三个大人狼吞虎咽。我这才明白苏珊让我做中餐 的真正用意。我相信，下一次，托比想发脾气扔饭碗时，一 定会想起自己饿着肚子看爸爸妈妈和奶奶享用美食的经历。 饿着肚子的滋味不好受，况且还是面对自己最喜爱的食物。

临睡前，我和苏珊一起去向托比道晚安。托比小心翼翼地问 ： “妈妈，我很饿，现在我能吃中国面吗？”苏珊微笑着摇摇 头，坚决地说：“不！”托比叹了口气，又问：“那等我睡 完觉睁开眼睛时，可以吃吗？”“当然可以。”苏珊温柔地回 答。托比甜甜地笑了。

大部分情况下，托比吃饭都很积极，他不想因为“罢吃”而 错 过食物，再受饿肚子的苦。每当看到托比埋头大口大口地吃 饭，嘴上脸上粘的都是食物时，我就想起外孙女。她像托比 这么大时，为了哄她吃饭，几个大人端着饭碗跟在她屁股后 面跑，她还不买账，还要谈条件：吃完这碗买一个玩具，再吃一 碗买一个玩具……

以其人之道，还治其人这身

有一天，我们带托比去公园玩。很快，托比就和两个女孩儿 玩 起了厨房游戏。塑料小锅、小铲子、小盘子、小碗摆了一地。 忽然，淘气的托比拿起小锅，使劲在一个女孩儿头上敲了 一下，女孩儿愣了一下，放声大哭。另一个女孩儿年纪更小 一些，见些情形，也被吓得大哭起来。大概托比没想到会有这么 严重的后果，站在一旁，愣住了。

苏珊走上前，开清了事情的来龙去脉后，她一声不吭，拿起 小 锅，使劲敲到托比的头上，托比没防备，一下子跌坐在草地 上，哇哇大哭起来。苏珊问托比：“疼吗？下次还这样吗？” 托比一边哭，一边拼命摇头。我相信他以后再也不会这么做了。

托比的舅舅送了他一辆浅蓝色的小自行车，托比非常喜欢， 当 成宝贝，不许别人碰。邻居小姑娘露西是托比的好朋友，央求托 比好几次，要骑他的小车，托比都没答应。

一次，几个孩子一起玩时，露西趁托比不注意，偷偷骑上小 车， 扬长而去。托比发现后，气愤地跑来向苏珊告状。苏珊正 和几个孩子的母亲一起聊天喝咖啡，便微笑着说：“你们的事情 自己解决，妈妈可管不了。”托比无奈地走了。

过了一小会儿，露西骑着小车回来了。托比看到露西，一把 将 她推倒在地，抢过了小车。露西坐在地上大哭起来。苏珊抱 起露西，安抚了她一会儿。很快，露西就和别的小朋友兴高采烈 地玩了起来。

托比自己骑了会车，觉得有些无聊，看到那几个孩子玩得那 么 高兴，他想加入，又觉得有些不好意思。他蹭到苏珊身边， 嘟囔道：“妈妈，我想跟露西他们一起玩。”苏珊不动声色 地说：“那你自己去找他们啦！”“妈妈，你陪我一起去。” 托比恳求道。“那可不行，刚才是你把露西弄哭的，现在你又想 和大家玩，就得自己去解决问题。”

托比骑着小车慢慢靠近露西，快到她身边时，又掉头回来。 来 回好几次，不知道从什么时候开始，托比和露西又笑逐颜开，闹 成了一团。

管教孩子是父母的事

苏珊的父母住在加利福尼亚州，听说我来了，两人开车来探 望 我们。家里来了客人，托比很兴奋，跑上跑下地乱窜。他把 玩沙子用的小桶装满了水，提着小桶在屋里四处转悠。苏珊 警告了她好几次，不要把水洒到地板上，托比置若罔闻。最 后，托比还是把水桶弄倒了，水洒了一地。兴奋的小托比不 觉得自己做错了事，还得意地光着脚丫踩水玩，把裤子全弄 湿了。我连忙找出拖把准备拖地。苏珊从我手中抢过拖把交 给托比，对他说：“把地拖干，把湿衣服脱下来，自己洗干 净。”托比不愿意，又哭又闹。苏珊二话不说，直接把他拉 到贮藏室，关了禁闭。听到托比在里面发出惊天动地的哭喊， 我心疼坏了，想进去把他抱出来。托比的外婆却拦住我，说： “这是苏珊的事。”

过了一会儿，托比不哭了，他在贮藏室里大声喊：“妈妈， 我 错了。”苏珊站在门外，问：“那你知道该怎么做了吗？” “我知道。”苏珊打开门，托比从贮藏室走出来，脸上还挂 着两行泪珠。他拿起有他两个高的拖把吃力地把地上的水拖 干净。然后，他脱下裤子，拎在手上，光着屁股走进洗手间，稀 里哗啦地洗起衣服来。

托比的外公外婆看着表情惊异的我，意味深长地笑了。这件 事 让我感触颇深。在很多中国家庭，父母管教孩子时，常常会 引起“世界大战”，往往是外婆外公护，爷爷奶奶拦，夫妻吵 架，鸡飞狗跳。

后来，我和托比的外公外婆聊天时，提到这件事，托比的外 公 说了一段话，让我印象深刻。他说，孩子是父母的孩子，首 先要尊重父母对孩子的教育方式。孩子虽然小，却是天生的 外交家，当他看到家庭成员之间出现分歧时，他会很聪明地 钻空子。这不仅对改善他的行为毫无益处，反而会导致问题 越来越严重，甚至带来更多别的问题。而且，家庭成员之间 发生冲突，不和谐的家庭氛围会带给孩子更多的不安全感， 对孩子的心理发展产生不利影响。所以，无论是父辈与祖辈 在教育孩子的问题上发生分歧，还是夫妻两人的教育观念有差 异，都不能在孩子面前发生冲突。

托比的外公外婆在家里住了一周，准备回加利福尼亚了。临 走 前两天，托比的外公郑重地问女儿：“托比想要一辆玩具挖 掘机，我可以买给他吗？”苏珊想了想，说：“你们这次来， 已经送给他一双旱冰鞋作为礼物了，到圣诞节时，再买玩具挖掘 机当礼物送给他吧！”

我不知道托比的外公是怎么告诉小家伙的，后来我带托比去 超 市，他指着玩具挖掘机说：“外公说，圣诞节时，给我买这个当 礼物。”语气里满是欣喜和期待。

虽然苏珊对托比如此严格，托比去却对妈妈爱得不得了。他 在 外面玩时，会采集一些好看的小花或者他认为漂亮的叶子， 郑重其事地送给妈妈；别人送给他礼物，他会叫妈妈和他一起拆 开；有什么好吃的，也总要留一半给妈妈。

想到很多中国孩子对父母的漠视与冷淡，我不得不佩服我的 洋 媳妇。在我看来，在教育孩子的问题上，美国妈妈有很多值得中 国妈妈学习的地方。

New Born Diary-Back to work

Time flies... finish my 2 mths maternity leaves... time to back to work.. few new faces = new colleagues...

For me... i had settled a number of stuff during this 2 wks off (started to send my bb to bb sitter, 2 wks before i start work).. My mom IC is blue now.. after processing for 5 years.. yes.. is 5 Years.. even she born in Johor, but still need 5 yrs to convert the red to blue.. And get her a passport... hehe.. i told her.. 'You can fly now' :) And 1 more good news , she no longer need to take the medication for the blood circulation control.. which dr initially said she might need to take for her whole life... she is so happy on taking off that critical medicine..:)

Mm.. another bad new.. which is out of the control.. my bb left ear is not so well.. Left ear is not giving a good response waive on testings (upon born and 1st mth test)... which need a more detail diagnostic test during the 2nd month jap time... ... hope is not that serious , pray hard !

My mom still here as I no need to rush too much now... she will be going back mid/end of july, which will start my 'iron lady' life... :(

Xin Ni .... not sure will turn up to be a pampered gal, as the bro and sis 'sayang' her so much.. treat her like a little princess at home now... :)

New Born Diary - Full month

Time flies... this coming saturday will have the full month ceremony for my new born...

Xin Ni turned to be more fair now.. last few weeks... mm.. since born, she more red and darker in skin ... this week turn to be fair .. just like her bro and sis...

She is now taking 3-4 oz (bfeed milk) for every feeding and about 3 oz if formula is given.. As taking a lot of expressed milk, she 'em em' a lot ... if she not sleep, she will cry loud for milk within 1 hour... even pacifier is given, she just cry loud... like my mom said 'no give face'...

This morning had cut her finger nails... very very long... scratched her own face ... when waiting for the milk to warm up... another bad temper and impatient gal ??

The con lady will leave on this coming saturday ... job will be passed back to me and hubby... start my 'panda' eyes life... and back to my iron lady life... after been 'Queen' for a month :)

Just wish my bb stay healthy and easy to take care ^_^

p/s: Sunnie said her hair like Dragon ball hair... 七龍珠

New Born Diary - Damai Lama

Received a email from a friend... which contains a really something meaningful to share about.. but it does not means everyone have to accept this 'concept', but to me i would like to share it out to my friends.. a bit long but try to be patient :)

p/s: First of all, i got no any intention to offend any religions... just sharing.

This is a conversation between Leornardo(Brazilian theologist) and Damai Lama.

Leornardo asking Damai Lama : "Your holiness, what is the best religion?"
(He thought Dalai Lama would say 'The Tibeton Buddhism".

Damai Lama paused, smiles and looked into his eyes and answer
"The best religion is the one that gets you closest to God. It is that one makes you a better person".

Leornardo : "What is it makes me better?"

Damai Lama : "Whatever make you
more compassionate,
more sensible,
more detached,
more loving,
more humanitarian,
more responsible,
more ethical...
The religion that will do that for you is the best religion."

He continued :"I am not interested, my friends, about your religion or if you are religious or not.

What really important to me is your behaviors in front of your peers, family, works, community and in front of the world.

Remember, the universe is the echo of our actions and our thoughts.

If I act with goodness, I will receive goodness;
If i act with evil, I will receive evil.

Been happy is not a matter of destiny,
It is a matter of options."

Finally he said :
Take care of your Thoughts because they become Words,
Take care of your Words because they will become Actions,
Take care of you Actions because they will become Habits,
Take care of your Habits because they will form your Character.
Take care of you Character because it will form your destiny
.... and your destiny will be your Life and.....

"There is no religion higher than the TRUTH."

The title of this article is 'Your religion is not important'

New Born Diary - 七年之痒

This morning took out a old movie to watch... by Carina Lau, Lau Cheng Wan...七年之痒. If i am not mistaken, i watched this movie few times already, which is the combination of comedy and love story.

Lau Cheng Wan really a good actor, as well as Carina Lau.. I especially love when Cheng Wan act in a comedy.. he really got the talent on that...

The process of Marry is EASY. To hold and maintain a marriage is NOT EASY! Every couple is learning the techniques EVERYDAY!

If both not putting any efforts in their marriage, it will end up very bore as got to repeat the same routine everyday, same conversation everyday ... If only one party is contributing ... it will not work out as well... as 一个手掌拍不响 (Clap one hand will not have any sounds). In order to maintain, need a lot of tolerant, understandings... of coz LOVES.

Learn to love the one you had chosen... He/She is definately not PERFECT, as you have to remember that you are not PERFECT as well :p

New Born Diary - Angel Name

Phew~~ finally, we manage to get a name for our little angel before due date.. remember, 14 days (2 wks) is given ... after due, kena fined oh....

Thanks to Master Lee on his extra efforts.. as need to double check as we chose other 'word' but same 'pi hua' .. thought is ok, but is actually NOT.. so make sure you all don make the same mistake ya..luckily last minute i double chk with him, and he got to squeeze his time to check for me with so short notice.. :p

My little angel name is 鄔欣霓 (Voon Xin Ni).

Before that, we thought of Xin Tong 欣彤 as Tong is the same number of 筆畫 as the option words given. But too bad ... 彤 is fire element which is not needed by my little angel... so got to choose other name...

To me and my hubby, we not superstition 迷信, name is very important that reflects a person life.. as this is a type of 'knowledge' that ppl had done a lot of research to come out... is not just pick from the sky... I do wish my kids will have a healthy and happy life, which to me is the most important thing in compare with other things..

New Born Diary - Oprah show

What do you do during confinement time? Well.... Since i had recruited a confinement lady, once she get used with her routine job (after 2-3 days). You can arrange yr time on planning your own routine as well.

I had start watching Oprah Show, which started at 10.30am on every thurs/Fri. It's really Good show.

Today she talked about the thing that I felt everyone will encounter, soon or later.. on and off ... First of all, ask yourself one question. "What you really want for yourself??"

We tends to forgot one thing 'Love yourself!'. We love our parent, our kids, our hubby, but we used to forgot ourself. You must slot some times in your tight schedule just for yourself to do the thing that 'love' yourself.

For a working mom like me, times is really 'tight' for me... Early morning wake up for preparation (bfast, dinner stuff, kids school stuff, laundry). After work, rush back, cooked dinner (sometimes packed from outside, but I still prefer to have home-cooked meal), bath, fetching the kids from bb sitter hse... son's homeworks, get them to sleep.. tat's all about so called A DAY. Is there time for myself. The answer is NOPE! I believe is not only happened to me. Right?

The result will be, it will be a day where i suddenly felt so exhausted, tired, frustrated.. coz i lose my directions, the meaning of life ... as I been ignore 'myself' for too long...

So.. try to ask yrself "What you really want ?" ... For me, I wan to be healthy and a balanced life. Once you got yr answer, you have to plan it and IMPLEMENT IT !!

Give yourself 30 min or lesser to read the book you like, to practice some exercises, to eat more healthy ... You MUST Plan something to love yourself MORE!!

New Born Diary - My angel

This is my angel, still have not get her a name yet, as waiting for Master Lee （just got his mail, he really good, nice and kind gentleman..trust me.)

She has long hands and legs... her fingers are very long...:) A lot of dark hairs (her bro and sis, esp sis got very very little hairs) And she got something that both of her bro and sis do not have .... a pair of 酒窝 on her cheeks... not sure what it called in English... a good and 乖乖 gal...

yes... the pix taken in labour room, even though i look very 'chan'... but I felt this pix is excellent, my hand still hanging with the induce 'tube' with bloods... my dotta just been weighted and wrapped with warm towel... yes... both eyes are opened and she keep scrolling her eyeballs right and left to see the 'world'... and checking her 'mommy' face... which I told her earlier that we might 'meet' at 5pm ... but postphoned until 11 pm....:)

While in hosp for the 2 days.... there are few times while she is crying loud, i sing the 'ku ku' song (Farewell ku ku song in the movie "The Sound Of Music"), she immediately stop crying and looking at me.... till i finish the song.... Yes, I sing this a lot to her sister (Qin) when she is still in my stomach, proved that she listened as well... and can recognised this song ....

New Born Diary - Con Lady

Not sure what to say about my lucks.... i had a bad experience with con lady on my 2nd confinement ... Qin time..

This round, i got another 'bad' one... damn bad lucks...

I discharged on Friday, my hub had picked up the con lady on that morning, took my lunch from my mil hse, and straight to SJMC for 'check out'.

She is very young look, told me 55 yrs old.... not so thin or not so fat.. medium size... short hair. We reached home around 2pm++. At 7pm, when she served me dinner time, told me she will get replacement for me. Reason is my house too hot, hot till not even got 'air', she cannot tahan hot, so she quit!!

I am staying in a double storey hse... not to say anything good, but so far my hse air circulation not bad. To me is not a reason, must be caused by other reason, but since i got 'experience' in dealing bad con lady before...i told her 'OK, you can leave once yr replacement arrived'

she keep calling her frens, then told me no one... then said she will contact agent, told me sure got. The next day, Saturday morning as my hub went to wet market to buy food , she pass me to talk to agent directy, agent told me need to extra RM 100 as need to cook for my hub and mom for wkday dinner + wkend (lunch + dinner). well, this is their 'rules', i said i will settle the RM 100 with this lady.. I told her that she need to bear watever extra cost, she disagree... and said 'cannot be i pay u for confinement mah'. I am already mad, so told her 'Now, you r the one caused me so much problems, once u arrive, u keep on complaninging this and that, I am paying you and I am the one who need to listen to all kind of complain from you.. You did not tell me you need a fully - air conditinoed envrioment only you can work. You should tell me earlier before you accept the job. Now you said u quit and if you go get a 6k con lady, do I need to pay the extra 3k for your false??"

She keep quiet and say 'I did not say i wan all air cond, ok, i pay the RM 100, and i wan to leave today'.

i said "fine, once yr replacement arrived, u can leave'

she go call agent, said she going to bear the RM100 (actually agent need to pay her if she intro agent job, so i assume the rm 100 is her commision that she give up). Agent told next day onli can arrived as the replacement is Ipoh lady, only can arrive on Sunday. Later she told me she had called taxi, as i said the lady onil can come sunday, she start tok again 'you wan me to bear 100 then now said tomolo onli can leave'. Before i talked to her, i had chk ith my hub, as in wkend, i can get my mil to come to help me coo k.... so i said to her "fine, u go and pay me back the balance'. After she left, 1 hr she called back, my hub said not sure she sendiri 'leong sam gua yi pu chu', then tell me 'the water in yr room is for u to wash hand, the one for bath is in kitchen'. I said 'ok'... then she say ok and off the phhone... Me so good, i even give the taxi driver direction on how to come my hse to ftch her GO!!

The new one arrived on sunday 3pm +. So far so good as i monitor, but dare not comment much as too early to judge, really 'met the ghost, scare the dark'...

Luckily als, my mil knew liao, she came to help me cook and take care bb....

I got her fullname but think of not to really spoil her name...just give you some hints, for those really want to know her name, can email me... she stay in cheras, she got a big
mole' on her face... some where near the mouth (not sure right and left)... she will need u to deposit rm 500 once confirmed. Agent told me, she only work in a very good condition , like hse got a lot of air cond, got maid, etc...

New Born Diary - Labour

First of all, thanks all for the wishes ! Yes , I had delivered my dotta on last wednesday, 5 May 2010 at 11.05 pm, 3.52 kg

Contraction started on Tues nite, wed morning as i monitored, about 1/2 hr once, but no pains, just contractions.... so i just ignore it... and monitored and updated my hub... around noon time, it became every 20 min, 15 min.... but not really pains.. Hub decided to rush back from work ... once he reached, ask me to admit to hosp as he scare later jam,etc... as i want to wait till 'bleed', he said NOPE....

At 2.10pm, I were in labour room.... My gynae told mid wives that.. let it go by natural, no induce. Me and my hub wait and wait, contraction came and gone... strong and soft..... me really no patient on that, it not really pains.... As the prev 2 kids induced, so compare to that, this is just nothing much pains...;p I know is God Blessed me for less suffer ... At around 9pm, only opened 4 cm.... Gynae instructed mid wives to give me 'booster'... (induce).. Given at 9.30pm... 10pm +, already 6-7 cm... When getting stronger and stronger... Informed my gynae, when he reached... As instructed by the Brother Hao { 2 long push }, bb is out !!!

{Brother Hao had instructed the sis that, 'mama onli need to kok 2 times, ok, then u crawl out, then mama no need to be sweat a lot then - man sen ta han}

My gal just look exact like the brother when he born...i describe more on my next 'chapter'... then... my hub had toook more video clips this time... started from my 1st 'push'... i said 'aiyo, u onli take after bb is out mah'...

Bro hao not sleep well on that nite, keep crying and yelling wan to go hosp to accompany me, next day he ponteng... and followed the father to visit me... :(

Sis Qin very good gal, independent and kwai, did not givemuch troubles...:) When she first saw the bb, she sitting beside her for few hrs, to 'jaga', even dont bother to go upstari to see her mom (me) .... :~

Complicated feelings....

My EDD is 13 May, but i know I not able to wait that long, not me as well, my bb .... Dr Ang had informed me last friday, now had opened 1 cm...(still got 21 days to due) bb position is ready... consider everythign is ready, if i really suffer, I can admit for induce anytime (last sat).

But my confinment lady will work till 30 April, she ask to rest on saturday (1 May), and come to start work on sunday, with the conditions of deliver earlier...

In the other hands, I really quite suffer as my tummy is damn big and heavy... and having contractions on and off... tummy sudden tight like wan to pecah.. at nite cannot sleep well, my nephew said i got a pair of big eye bag :( so hard to turn aside on bed...

Just found out my gynae is on leave, and only back on Friday... eiks... even though there will be other gynae on-call , but i still prefer my own gynae lor....

Wanted so much to see my bb asap but got to ask my bb try to 'hold' till the things are ready. If not, got to do a lot of ad hoc planning .....

Ei... dont care lar... the most important I have a healthy bb and the process of labour delivery carried out safetly and smoothly to both of us :)

Pray hard !!! I beleive my bb will arrived at the right time!!

my kids....

My kids.... no matters how tire am I, when i reached home and get both of them back from bb sitter hse... tat's the lovely and remarkable moments i will have... even though sometimes they really make me rush/busy like mad woman... or yelling them here and there.... but still ... whenever looks at them, i feel HAPPY, smiles on face that come from heart...

papa said : Qin looks like aunty when carry the handkerchief..

1 day off .....

Really felt of getting a day off from all hassles... just 1 day for me that out of any planning, any thinking, just relax and eat and sleep ...

what a day i am dreaming of ........

1st quarter of 2010

Life become very buzy in this year... so fast had almost pass the 1st quarter of the year... i know someone wil buzz me for the quarterly report soon...

I am at my 32/33th weeks now... another 7-8 wks to go.. as my previous records shown, i probably will deliver around 38th week .. yes.. always early 10-15 days ... which is good that i do not need to suffer for longer time... esp on the 3rd trimester of pregnancy, which we not able to sleep well, only can sleep side way and need to change the position frequently... make sure our 'action' are always slow down .... walk like 'duck' haha... phew~~ another 7-8th wks for me...

oh yes.. need to congrates my fren on his new born son...KM's corner sure rushing up and down for this 2 days to settle down everything...

Had spent few nites staying in KL Legend last week as the member entitlement going to expire if not use it and I cannot travel far, quite funny ya.. just to chk in the hotel and stay for few nites.. kekek.. but my kids enjoy as they having lots of fun in the swimming pool, it's her1st time to go into swimming pool, this gal never fear on water... i still remember her brother will stick to us when we first brought him to swimming pool... but the sister just walked around and have fun herself ... brave gal !

there are still something going on for these few wks before i really can settle down to wait for my 'new born' to arrive.. just pray hard to hope everything going well !!

My 3rd kid is a gal

YES! I had my monthly checkup on last Friday, and Dr Ang told me my bb will probaby a baby girl :) Actually we had 'guess' the bb might be a gal as we still not able to 'check the sex' on 4 mths + pregnancy, normally if bb boy, you will able to know very fast....

My hub first thing to tell me after the checkup is "Mmm... now we got 2 gals ya... gals will be more 'sam pat', and hse will be more noises next times."...hahah 'sam pat' is the word he described ya... :p

For me, gal or boy doesnt matters, but is quite good to have 2 dottas at home... which can train them to help this mama to do the housework next time. In addtionals, hse will be more 'warm-up' (not sam pat) with the noises made by my gals... Sisters can share a lot of thing together, such as shopping, facial, and much more stuffs... Sons normally turned up to be more quiet at home esp when they grow up...

Just 1 thing , my son disappointed with it. But his super-mama brains-wash him a bit... keke Now he is o k with another new little sis .... what i tell him??

mama: Hao, mama stomach bb is very good, she listened what her brother tell her... 'let the dr to chk clearly on the bb sex' on mama checkup time... but , she got no 'chiu chiu' , is a gal... you got another little bb sister...

Hao: mm.. but I still prefer a di di ....

mama: never mind... you can get your 'lau po' (wife) to deliver you a lot of 'chiu chiu' bb next time ya... your little sis very sayang you leh.. you got to take care her well....

He seems to accept and no more 'bug' me anymore.....:)

outside food

Recently i am busy with something else. Thus, i temporarily give up my chef tasks at home. And of coz 'ta pao' will be the way to get food for dinners after works....

1st wk - still o k...

2nd wk - start to feel bore on outside food as is not as yummy as my own cooking (thick skin ya.. but is true mah)... those food stores that near to my house or my office or my hub's office area.. there are of coz some nice food, but it cannot be we repeat the same food over and over again... i realy miss my own cooking ... my ginger chinese wine chic, my assam fish , my marmic prawn, tomato prawn, super yummy soups... veges... 'black sour chicken', herb-steamed chick, chic legs with mushroom, thai fried rice, portugese fried rice... how I miss them!!! Even a onion fried eggs is good enuf for me to serve a bowl of rice.. hehe.. no worry, i will get all these after 3rd wk of Jan...kekek..

Last year 2009 review

what I had done for previous year? really got to sit down and think...haha.... cannot really remember... yes... there are some good news..

1. My mom malaysian citizenship finally get approved. She born in JB, she got her 12 yrs old IC when she studied in Spore. Government issued her a red IC and my grandpa just not aware of the meaning of red IC. We been applied the citizenship since 2004 and finally approval letter is issued by end of Dec 2009, yes it took about 5 yrs +. I brought my parent to putrajaya to collect the letter, pay RM300 (dunno for what) and made the 'sumpah'. phew~~~ next step is gonna to wait for them to print the cert ... 2-3 more mths periods of times... willbe informed via mail, then only will proceed to change her IC to blue.

2. Surprise bonus gift. My 3rd kid. Still do not know the gender, should be know by Friday, next checkup. My son is excited, my dotta still dunno what is that.. haha..so another new family member will be added on this coming May, 2010.

3. My 2nd sis family had migrated to Australia. Quite sad ya.... will pay them a visit after I settle down with my new born and kids... probably end of next year i think .... Nowadays, we still able to 'chat' often via internet .... definately will miss them....

4. Changed new bb sitter. A very good new to my kids, finally i managed to find a good bb sitter for them.. quite struggled previously due to old bb sitter. Now, they got a lovely nanny and nice food.

5. Taiwan trip .Yes, we managed to go taiwan by mid of Nov 2009.

6. My immediately boss left, been work with him for more than 8 yrs.. quite sad on his leaving..

.... cannot think of any others... but sometime no news is good news ... Wish everyone happy always and be healthy, which I always think is the most important thing for every one to have that. Happy New Year 2010 !!!